Side effects of dating a narcissist
All of their energy is spent on trying to win back the one they fell in love with.What most fail to realize is that that person never existed. The person you met in the beginning was an actor and the one they are with now, is the true individual behind the mask.I think the hardest thing to get over is the deliberate mind fuck, the psychological warfare that the Narcissist uses to keep his victims emotionally invested in him. The mixed signals of I love you one day and hate you the next, has women and men not only questioning their sanity, but their sense of self-worth as well.Narcissists are generally angry, miserable people and they love to project their misery onto those closest to them. They are pathological liars and will lie about even the most insignificant things.They pay keen attention to your vulnerabilities, your fears and what causes you the most hurt, as a means of control, for a Narcissist must always be in control.
This validation seeking can go on for a long, long time.Depending upon the duration, the impact of such a union could have profound emotional, psychological, spiritual, physical and even financial effects on its victims.Once a partner does manage to break free and gain the much needed emotional and physical distance, either by choice, necessity or abandonment, they are often left with some devastatingly painful questions like – Did he ever love me? What one must always remember is that Narcissists do not love.Once a relationship with a Narcissist ends, most victims are left with the enormous task of weaving through all the lies and the abuse and building themselves back up.Their sense of self-esteem and self-worth will have been virtually annihilated. Being free of such a monster should be considered a blessing, but what often happens, after prolonged exposure to this type of abuse, is that many will actually pine and grieve for the return of their tormentor.